My brother mailed me the porcelain figurine of the girl lying on her stomach with her hands cupped beneath her chin and a peaceful expression on her face. It had been sitting in the same place on the family room bookshelf for over 40 years. As I view it on my dining room table, I think about how ironic it is that my mother needed to control everything in her environment, including the placement of knick knacks, and how in the few months since her death, everything has been unceremoniously thrown away, sold or distributed. Dust to dust.
She never talked about death, dying, or money. These subjects were not to be discussed. Then, if you don’t talk about death, you can pretend that it won’t happen to you.
As an example of how our family dealt with our mother’s invasiveness, I recently learned that my divorced brother has a live-in girlfriend that none of us knew about. He also said that he prepared his two children to visit their grandmother by giving them a list of answers to her possible questions and afterwards paid them for every correct answer (his instructions: offer no personal information, say ‘nothing’ and ‘I don’t know’).
My Question:
Since I don’t know what it’s like to experience the parental love that I’ve observed others receive: What does it mean to grow up knowing you are cared for and loved?
Message:
The event you are looking for is one of the seed being nurtured to blossom like a tree with all its lovely green foliage. Reaching its roots into healthy soil and being fed what it needs to grow. In this case, the caring and love become the fertile soil for you to develop healthy patterns and lives. However, even if there is love, it doesn’t mean there won’t be other traumatizing experiences to cause an individual to mutate, encountering psychological hurdles affecting the ability to develop a healthy adult life.
In fact, there are so many barriers and considerations connected to developing an individual that there is no sense trying to understand the part that human interactions play. You are in a spiral of learning having to do with karmic patterns and cycles which create an environment that makes individuals aberrate. The aberration is the unique quality which differentiates each person – like snowflakes, no two are alike.
And, the qualities that contribute to each individual include a mix of genetic heritage, DNA, and star seed. Those who are not generic are individuated by character and pattern-type. So, the engineering is a result of altering DNA and contributing elements of star seed patterns in certain varieties of humans.
It’s not the love or lack of love, it’s the reaching for a certain balance, understanding, and equilibrium, which creates a drive or motivation to achieve the experience of being fully individuated. Thus, the messages encoded in DNA include a characterization of individuality and a purpose-driven need for self expression. All disappointments are treasured as guideposts to life targets. There are no mistakes.
Monti’s comment:
I understand that this is the way it was meant to be even though I don’t like it. Even though I don’t like it one bit.
We are all shaped by our experiences and how we react to them turns us in the direction we’re meant to grow…
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